Tummy & buttocks

 Conversation with a 4.5 year old.

Was making Ira practice lowercase abcd…z yesterday. 

I noticed that she was not able to write few letters, she was really trying. I could see her thought process, literally. So for an adult (for us ) abcd is nothing but for them it’s so much. 

I helped her by showing few on the side paper and she tried them.

After z, the following conversation went on

Me: Iru you did a good job. 

Ira - but I’m not getting to write few, is that bad ?

Me - that’s ok. You don’t know them now , but you will know in few days, I know that you are a smart person and you can learn, practice and do. I am going to help you & remember nothing is difficult.

She gleamed and was listening to every word I said. Really. 

Me: Can we discuss what is difficult for you ?

Ira: yes, will you help me ? ( puppy eyes literally)

Me: Always 

Pause and thought processing while looking at the paper

Ira: mmmm I’m getting confused with b d , Z & 2 number, g & q & p , s & number 5. 

Me : oh see you have trouble only with these few, you know all the rest. 

Ira : yes mommy. I will practice learn these also in few days. I know I can do it. Nothing is difficult 

( her entire perspective changed just in few minutes, as I told her she can do it ) 

The usual me would have raised my voice and the scene would have been different. 

Don’t know if she changing me or I’m learning from her everyday. 

We later joked about letter “b” having a tummy and letter “d” having buttocks 😂 & ate peanut laddos 😀

PS : I only TRY to be a gentle parent. It’s only 10%, rest is history

23/01/2025